The Perfect Cuckold and Hotwife Relationship

The big question is, what makes such a relationship work? How does a married couple find balance in such a lifestyle? What must each spouse be prepared for or be willing to sacrifice? These questions and more is what this post is all about.

The quintessential aspect of such a relationship is security in the marriage to begin with. A relationship that is already rocky will falter. The next area for success is non-jealousy. This is a big one. The husband must like the idea of seeing his beloved with another guy. It has to turn him on and not make him upset. We as men are programmed to be competitive and want to be better that the guy next to us. To have your wife in the arms of a better lover, a guy who makes her wild in bed and satisfies her more than you is a huge thing to deal with on an emotional level.

You may think it’s going to be great, but you may find that it hurts way too much. You can’t sacrifice your spirit for the sake of a sexual thrill. The swinging open marriage let your wife play lifestyle is and has to be all about strengthening your marriage and making both partners excited and thrilled to be so adventurous and open minded. If it makes your marriage better, it works. If it hurts is stop immediately and move on.

The hotwife must desire extra sex. There is no need to put emotions on the line if sex is not desired. In this case the husband realizes he is not the lover that can completely satisfy his wife. He may have issues or she may have issues. Either way, the idea of an extra lover who is a stud and very capable of bringing the wife to greater heights is desired. The issues could be age difference, the husband’s impotence, or perhaps premature ejaculation. He could be small in penile size compared to his wife, and or he could be injured, ill, or incapable of the energy needed to make his bride get wild in bed.

This does not mean they are not in love or that they can’t have a sexual relationship; it only means he or she or both desire more for her. Sex is a primal instinct. Why not make it reach it’s fullest potential?

She may just love more sex than the husband can offer or give. She may be multi-orgasmic through long rounds of intercourse, or by other means able to get off many times in one evening. She may be larger in organ size, and her husband’s smaller member may not be able to fulfill her carnal cravings. She may just want more sex than the man she loves can deliver.

All the above can lead to a great cuckold and hotwife relationship and to the seeking of a bull or stud to bring it all to a crescendo. However boundaries must be set. Each and every relationship in this regard needs certain rules. For example, kissing becomes an issue. Should the wife be allowed to French kiss her lovers? This may seem trivial, but it’s one of the biggest issues a couple will face. French kissing is extremely intimate and evokes strong emotions. Another huge issue is when and where, and is the cuckold allowed to always be present? The answer to this varies from couple to couple. The spouse must agree on this wholeheartedly.

The next issue is condom or no condom. We all know guys hate condoms. It again may seem like something that will work itself out, but in the heat of the moment and with a raging hard-on pointing right at your wife’s soaking pussy, she may forgo all thoughts of a condom, as will her bull.

There are more issues. Who does the setting up of the encounters, the phone calls, the emails? The husband and wife should make all this very clear prior to embarking on the hotwife lifestyle. Couples have different views again on these subjects. Another big one is how many times will the couple allow a bull to play with the wife? The more they fuck, the more they bond, and the more emotionally complicated things get. I have met with bulls that tell me stories that would scare the crap out of all prospective cuckolds wanting to give out their beautiful sexy wives for more nights of erotica with a more advanced sexual stud. One told me this, “I have had so many wives and girlfriends tell me they would leave their man in a minute to be with me.” They ask to have secret meetings, just us two.” If this doesn’t scare my fellow cuckold husbands I can’t think of what would. My point is, be firm and be very detailed about all these issues.

If the relationship is strong and ground rules are set, the experiences can be amazing. There’s nothing quite like seeing the woman you love sexual charged. Seeing her brought to heights unimaginable is beyond words. You will fall in love with her all over again. You will cherish her so much. The bond you share will grow leaps and bounds. The two of you will shop more together and laugh more together. You will go on trips and grand adventures like never before. It will bring you much closer as a couple.

A hotwife in such a setting usually will feel as though it makes her feel very feminine and adored. She will get the best of both worlds – the stability of a loving traditional relationship with a husband and kids, plus the uninhibited sexual freedom and exploration that is always available whenever she wants it.

Here’s what every good couple in the lifestyle should have in what I call “The Adventure Bag.”

1.      Condoms of all sizes – for us magnum XL was the brand we preferred.

2.      Breathe mints- great for during or after oral sex for your bull to use.

3.      Lubrication. Astroglide is the most natural.

4.      Rolaids in case of an upset tummy.

5.      Small wine bottles- great liquid courage and a little ice on hand.

6.      Small hard liquor to mix with soda from vending machines.

7.      Music via an pod and a small speaker playing system.

8.      Digital camera and or video player- charge your batteries ahead.

9.      Small vials of perfume for the hotwife to freshen up and or have on hand.

10.  Viagra on hand never hurts, true bulls rarely use it.

11.   Aleve for tension headaches.

12.  Snacks like pretzels and always a chocolate bar for the hotwife afterward.

13.  Bottled Water- very important to have on hand.

14.  A lint roller to brush clothing up.

15.  Bottle opener.

16.  A Lighter.

17.  Listerine Pocket Paks.

18.  A Pen for contact information just in case someone new comes along.

19.  A GPS, this tool helps any traveling to meet your stud much easier.

20.  Your hotwife’s favorite toy- just in case things go wrong!

In closing the lifestyle of cuck and hotwife is an amazing journey of emotions and sexual freedom. The adventures within our lasting memories that can bring a married couple closer and enhance a marriage in many many ways. The biggest issue is that your relationship must already be strong to begin on such a journey. As a couple always be patient. Be VERY patient, but don’t ever lower your standards. I hope above all else –you enjoy the ride.  -DH

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4 Responses to The Perfect Cuckold and Hotwife Relationship

  1. ravish says:

    My wife just hates condoms…and much prefers a very small select group of lovers (who actually started out as very good friends). With them, 3 men right now, she lets herself go completely…and it is so beautiful

    • derrin says:

      A select lover or two or three is fine and works. Some couples prefer the thrill of a new bull at times when they go out and the excitment leads to it. It all really depends on the couple. Meeting men for your wife over and over again is hot, yet it can lead to deeper emotions. New faces tend to not get so deep into the mind games. As for condoms, to each his own. It’s alot sexier and easier when condoms are not in the mix. However, there’s the disease and birth control issues that come with such bareness. You as a cuckold couple have to decide if the risk is worth the thrill!


  2. Carter says:

    I think one main point needs to be made. What makes our cuckold relationship perfect isn’t the same as the next couple. No 2 relationships are the same, with the same needs, triggers, turn ons / offs, ground rules etc. There are as many different facets to the cuckold lifestyle as there are cucks out there craving their wife’s infidelity.

    My interest in cuckoldry is related to my ownership of a small penis (~3″) and my overwhelming feelings of love and devotion to my wife that she deserves better than what I can provide. In simple terms, I adore her. She deserves to know what it feels like to be a total woman. And in my books, that means that she deserves to be cherished by a man able to bring her to sexual heights that I can only dream of providing. She compliments me that I have a talented mouth like no other she’s ever experienced, which is where I see my role. And I love to give her orgasms orally. But there’s no feeling in the world like watching the woman you love having multiple orgasms on the end of a superior man’s cock. Listening to her little whimpers as they turn into moans as they turn into squeals of delight as they turn into these base, guttural screams as she cums is enough to give me a little erection as I’m writing these words. It is just incredible to see and hear her. We video her visits with her current lover. One of my favorite encounters involved us getting a call on the cell, while the two of them were hot’n heavy in his bed. I answered it and then had to leave the room because of the noise they were making. So, there I am in the kitchen of his apartment, talking to my kids on the phone, and I can still hear them plainly in the background. Try talking to you kids sometime as you hear your wife yelling “Oh Mike” over and over as she cums!

    Security in the marriage is important, obviously. For us, the key is communication to the power of 100. Sandy has no rules when it comes to her men. I was surprised that some people don’t want the wife to kiss her lover. I love to see my wife shoving her tongue into her lover’s mouth. But that is our understanding up front. When she gives herself to a man, she gives 100% and holds nothing back. That means that no sex act is off limits, unless it involves pain (which she’s not into giving or receiving). But I’m perfectly OK with that level of involvement, as this only brings her to an even higher level of pleasure.

  3. Multitalanted says:

    Dear all, Im glad to see cuckolds responses, but it would be great to hear the perspective of the shared wives.
    One point that is repeated over and over by cucks, is that he wants to know that she is fucking other men because she wants to and not because he wants her to.
    As far as our wives giving themselves over to the bull 100%, I didn’t think that there was any other way for us cucks to enjoy this, that’s why we ask our women constantly if she is doing this for her……..
    A cuckolds lifestyle is about sharing the most cherished thing in your life with another man. We should only give it all.

    Be happy


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